Even during the best of circumstances, keeping your focus on the positive instead of focusing on what is negative takes effort. We seem to be hard wired to pick out the negativity, tune into the sensational, and tap into that inner voice that tells us what is wrong with everything around us. Here are 7 things I do to help shift my focus back when I find myself dwelling on the negative, and how I manage to keep the peace and joy alive inside and out.
1 – Be Grateful
When you are thinking of the things in your life that you are grateful for, your focus naturally shifts to the positive aspects of your life. If you can’t find the silver lining, then make one up!
2 – Have a Snack
I have this problem soooo often with my kids, but I still forget that it applies to me as well. Sometimes you’re just hungry! Try eating an apple and having a big glass of water and see it that helps you feel more positive and energized.
3 – Do Something Fun
Another inner child trick! Play a short little game (but not one you’re going to keep losing to over and over!), put on some music and dance, color, or just do whatever makes you smile.
4 – Self Care = Self Love
I can’t help but feel happy when I’m pampering myself. If you don’t have a lot of time, you can even just have a nice cup of tea, a chocolate bar, do a quick sheet mask, or diffuse some oils. When you take care of yourself, you are sending a signal to yourself that you are WORTHY of care, and the positive shift continues.
5 – Disconnect
Sometimes the only way to get out of the negative input is to disconnect. Are you spending too much time on social media, watching the news, or feeding your fear? Put down your phone for awhile and focus on what is happening right in front of you… the cat curled up at your feed, your kids happily playing down the hall, the smell of your dinner cooking. What’s happening in the world is important, but it doesn’t have to dominate our day.
6 – Affirmations
I use affirmations every morning to get my mind focused for the day. I used to feel silly saying them, but now I really look forward to it. Many of my favorites start of with, “It is safe for me to feel/receive/be,” and it helps me to not feel guilty for being happy despite the circumstances.
7 – Phone a Friend
I’ve been trying to add quick Facetime chats with my BFF whenever it sounds like either of us need a pick me up. Even seeing her face and interacting for 5 minutes makes a huge difference in my mood.
What are your favorite ways to find positivity in your life?